Comments on: Confessions of Guilt http://theguiltguide.com/confessions-of-guilt/ Using cowgirl wisdom to guide women through guilt Wed, 28 Apr 2010 16:37:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: anonymous http://theguiltguide.com/confessions-of-guilt/comment-page-1/#comment-14 anonymous Fri, 19 Mar 2010 02:25:38 +0000 http://theguiltguide.com/?p=445#comment-14 Recently my husband has lost his job. He is a good man, has experience in all sorts of jobs, but has been unsuccessful in finding something else. People try to be polite, I'm sure, when they ask if he has found anything yet, but sometimes this question makes me feel guilty. Especially when family asks. I feel that they are judging him, blaming him for losing his job, not finding a a new one quickly. It's not like he isn't trying, it's not like he hasn't been knocking on every door possible, but he just hasn't been able to find anything. I feel guilty having to defend him, guilty that I have to be the bread winner with just a part time job and people seem to think this is wrong. I feel guilty because people are judging my family as a failure because he can't support us right now. Recently my husband has lost his job. He is a good man, has experience in all sorts of jobs, but has been unsuccessful in finding something else. People try to be polite, I’m sure, when they ask if he has found anything yet, but sometimes this question makes me feel guilty. Especially when family asks. I feel that they are judging him, blaming him for losing his job, not finding a a new one quickly. It’s not like he isn’t trying, it’s not like he hasn’t been knocking on every door possible, but he just hasn’t been able to find anything. I feel guilty having to defend him, guilty that I have to be the bread winner with just a part time job and people seem to think this is wrong. I feel guilty because people are judging my family as a failure because he can’t support us right now.

]]> By: anonymous http://theguiltguide.com/confessions-of-guilt/comment-page-1/#comment-12 anonymous Sat, 13 Mar 2010 17:54:23 +0000 http://theguiltguide.com/?p=445#comment-12 I'm a career oriented person. I work in banking and love my job. I continued working after I got married and then took some time off to start a family. Now I have three great kids who are 5, 3 and 18 months. 6 months ago, I got antsy being home and went back to work. So now I have them in daycare and don't spend nearly as much time with them every day. But that's not what I feel guilty about. I feel guilty because I love going to work each morning and it doesn't bother me to drop the kids off at daycare. As a matter of fact, I enjoy the break. I love my professional work and really don't mind being away from my kids during the day. I wonder if there's something wrong with me because most mothers feel just the opposite - guilty that they have to work and aren't home with their kids all the time. It's weird that I feel guilty about not feeling guilty. I’m a career oriented person. I work in banking and love my job. I continued working after I got married and then took some time off to start a family. Now I have three great kids who are 5, 3 and 18 months. 6 months ago, I got antsy being home and went back to work. So now I have them in daycare and don’t spend nearly as much time with them every day.

But that’s not what I feel guilty about. I feel guilty because I love going to work each morning and it doesn’t bother me to drop the kids off at daycare. As a matter of fact, I enjoy the break. I love my professional work and really don’t mind being away from my kids during the day. I wonder if there’s something wrong with me because most mothers feel just the opposite – guilty that they have to work and aren’t home with their kids all the time. It’s weird that I feel guilty about not feeling guilty.

]]> By: Anonymous http://theguiltguide.com/confessions-of-guilt/comment-page-1/#comment-11 Anonymous Fri, 12 Mar 2010 17:20:52 +0000 http://theguiltguide.com/?p=445#comment-11 Last year, my two kids wanted me to take them to Disneyland. There's no way I could afford it so I told them that if they saved up enough money, we'd go. I figured there was no way they could save that kind of money so I was off the hook. About a month ago, they came to me with a jar with $72 dollars in it. They had saved their birthday money and chore money for the past year so they could go to Disneyland. I told them it wasn't enough yet and to keep saving. I knew that money was just sitting there day after day not being used so last week I couldn't stand it any more and spent it on alcohol. I guess you could say I like to drink because it helps me with stress. So now I feel guilty I've spent their Disneyland money. I feel guilty I'm so weak and I feel guilty because I drink too much. There, I said it. Last year, my two kids wanted me to take them to Disneyland. There’s no way I could afford it so I told them that if they saved up enough money, we’d go. I figured there was no way they could save that kind of money so I was off the hook. About a month ago, they came to me with a jar with $72 dollars in it. They had saved their birthday money and chore money for the past year so they could go to Disneyland. I told them it wasn’t enough yet and to keep saving.
I knew that money was just sitting there day after day not being used so last week I couldn’t stand it any more and spent it on alcohol. I guess you could say I like to drink because it helps me with stress. So now I feel guilty I’ve spent their Disneyland money. I feel guilty I’m so weak and I feel guilty because I drink too much. There, I said it.

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