Kim Gibbs: The Guilt Guide

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06/16/10

Post by Kim Gibbs

How to Overcome Guilt and Leave it in the Dust – Step 1

Guilt was meant to be a signal, not a life sentence.  You aren’t meant to suffer from guilt your entire life.  Unfortunately, there are way too many people out there who feel guilty far longer than they should.   

In my next several blogs, I’ll lay out the steps that will help you overcome guilt and leave it in the dust.  These steps worked for me and I’m excited to share them with you.

Step 1   Acknowledge what you did wrong.

If you’re serious about overcoming guilt, you can’t just suppress it, weasel your way around it, or jump over it.  You must work directly through it.

So the very first step in healing is to face what it is you’ve done wrong.  Don’t deny it or blame someone else.  Admit your wrong-doing to yourself and to your God or higher power.  Bring it out of the darkness and into the light.  I like to confess out loud to increase my focus and commitment to this step. 

Don’t be tempted to keep the worst of what you’ve done hidden; honestly confess all of it – your thoughts, feelings and actions – or the guilt will come back later, bigger and badder than ever. 

Guilt is like a painful infection just under the skin.  The first step in treating it is to peel back the skin and expose the infection. Then you can effectively get rid of it.  Overcoming guilt works the same way.  First uncover the cause of the pain, and then you can take the proper steps to cleanse it.

Oscar Wilde once said, “It is the confession, not the priest that gives us absolution.”  In other words, acknowledging your wrong-doing and being accountable for it puts you on the right path for getting rid of guilt.  The rest of the steps will be futile if you don’t start by owning up to your mistake.  

I won’t kid you; this step is usually painful, just like poking around an infection is painful.  But rather than avoiding this step because it adds to your pain, see it as a purging that will relieve it.  And know that the discomfort of this step, just like the pain of guilt, is meant to be short-lived.