Kim Gibbs: The Guilt Guide

Posts Tagged ‘hold on to guilt’

1/27/10

Post by Kim Gibbs

This is a blog for women. Why? Mainly because I’m a woman and so, for the most part, I share a similar perspective on guilt as other women.

Also, as I interview people – both men and women – I’m discovering that more women tend to hold on to guilt than men. Now it could be that men feel guilty just as much as women but don’t want to tell anybody else. Most men have a natural desire to solve their problems by themselves. But my research shows that most of them really don’t struggle much with guilt.

The women I interviewed would share a long list of things they felt guilty about and why, and the effect it had on them and on and on. But when I interviewed my husband Brad and asked, “Honey, do you tend to hang on to guilt,” he answered, “No.” End of interview.

When I asked that question of other men, the answers were the same. “Why on earth would I do that,” they would reply, looking at me as though I really was from Venus. They were taking care of their guilt and leaving it behind.

Of course there are many men who carry guilt and many women who do not, but my comments in this blog will be primarily addressed to women who are hanging on to it. However, if there are any men who are tuned in, you are more than welcome to stay.  I’m sure you’ll get some benefit out of this, too!